What are the types of abuse?
There are different types of domestic abuse, but the perpetrator’s aim is always to have power over you.
The abuser might:
- Isolate you from your friends and family.
- Prevent you from spending time with anybody except them.
- Stop you from going to work.
- Accuse you of having affairs or flirting with others.
- Exhibit controlling behaviour such as controlling what you wear, who you see, where you go and what you think.
- Control your money.
- Monitor your social media pages and read your letters.
- Put a GPS locator on your phone, so they know exactly where you are.
- Constantly try to belittle you.
- Blame you for their behaviour.
- Deny that abuse is happening.
Threats and intimidation
This is when someone threatens to hurt you, your children or themselves. They may intimidate you by invading your personal space and following or harassing you. They might threaten to damage your property.
Physical abuse covers all actions that hurt your body. It can involve kicking, hitting, punching, shoving, biting, throwing things at you or holding you down.
If somebody touches you where you do not want to be touched, pressures you into having sex or hurts you during sex, this is abuse.
When somebody forces you to have sex with them against your will, it is rape. It is still rape if they are your partner.